It is devastating and heartbreaking to lose a loved one but even more when you never had a chance to say goodbye or not saying words you always wanted to say.
Not only did I lose my husband in 2017 but I also lost my mother two and a half months later. I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye to either one of them.
My husband didn’t have enough life insurance to cover his funeral expenses and my mother had no life insurance at all. Paying the balance of Mike’s funeral bill and 1/5 of my mother’s funeral bill is a lot out of pocket expenses to endure in such a short time.
My husband meant the world to me. Another expense I had to consider was a gravestone. I wanted something more than just his name on a piece of paper displayed in a stand. So I went thru the process of selecting a gravestone. My father passed away in 2008, so there was a gravestone already where my mother was laid to rest. There was a cost associated with engraving her date of death on the stone. Another expense but it doesn’t end there. Luckily the grandchildren helped to pay for the engraving.
There is more to come after the funeral and the expense of the gravestone. My ongoing challenge was paying for his medical out of pocket expenses and then finding someone to help with things that my husband always took care of that I could not do. I would call a business or contractor, explain what I needed, and never received a call back. Or when I finally was able to talk to a live person, someone would come, looked at what I needed to be done, told me they would get back to me in one or two weeks and I never heard back. Very frustrating!
Emails to Heaven gives you the opportunity to write your goodbye, say words you didn’t get a chance to say, write a memoriam for a spouse, mother, father, brother, sister, friend, or even a pet. Writing a memoriam to a place in your local newspaper can be costly.
Emails to Heaven have put together a select list of widow/widower friendly businesses or contractors to help make your life a little easier when you need help.
Emails to Heaven is non-profit and donations received will be used to help others who have the inability to pay for funeral expenses, the purchase of a gravestone and other unique services when funds are available.
Dealing with the emotions of losing a loved one can be added to the already long list. It can be difficult dealing with the silence and emptiness day after day because now you no longer have their companionship. You no longer enjoy a conversation and a laugh or two at night when you are falling asleep, because now you take a walk down memory lane with tears running down your cheeks instead. I know what it feels like. I have been through this myself and still going through it. If you have no one to turn too and need to talk to someone to help you through these tough times, Emails to Heaven offers information on grief counseling.
Life after death isn’t easy, and I want you to know that you are not alone. Emails to Heaven is here to help, whenever possible. I am hoping to build a network of widows and widowers, who would like to share their goodbyes, a memoriam, and offer suggestions on what they would like to have available to them. Hopefully, you will even make a friend or two at one of our outings.